Things I’m Afraid to Tell You

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So last week I saw the Things I’m Afraid to Tell You post on Creature Comforts, talking about the vast difference between what bloggers present as reality versus true reality. With lifestyle and fashion blogs in particular I think it’s really easy to see all the beautiful images and think that these people are living these perfect lives, when that’s just one (heavily styled) version of reality. I don’t think that my blog comes across as anything like that since it’s quite a personal blog, but here’s a few secrets about me in case you’re under the impression I’m living a charmed life!

  • I’ve had body-image issues most of my life (even when I was really very skinny) – nothing serious, but enough to dent my self-esteem and confidence. Sadly I think that this is extremely common – I remember someone telling me that 2 out of 3 women dislike their bodies? Thankfully these days despite being far from pinup material I feel much more accepting of my size and shape, and happy with where I am.
  • I don’t find slim, model-looking people inspiring – I feel more like they’re an alien species rather than something that’s a realistically attainable goal for me. And, as horrible as it sounds, some self-defense mechanism in my brain likes to assume they are mean and/or dumb to balance out their attractiveness. Often after actually talking with people like this it turns out to not be the case at all. I apologise for the assumption; really it just means I think you’re hot.
  • I’m just coming out of the famine part of the always a feast or a famine cycle of freelancing. It was pretty rough. There’s definitely a lot of good things about freelancing, but there’s also a lot of stress and uncertainty too. Imagine not being paid for a month – would you survive? I’m now heading into the feast part, which means more money but also a lot more working hours!
  • I definitely sometimes have doubts about whether I’m doing the right thing in sticking with freelancing – usually during the ‘famines’. But I figure if there’s ever a time to be doing something like this, it’s now. I don’t want to be stuck with a mortgage and a kid wondering if I didn’t give myself enough of a chance to succeed working for myself.
  • For some reason some people are under the impression I’m a good cook and we eat gourmet for every meal – but I’m not a very good cook! I rarely make anything inedible, but generally it’s pretty average. I usually try to put in some effort though, and absolutely refuse to eat packaged dinners or a dinner consisting only of steamed vegetables.
  • Also, if I’ve given you the impression that I’m a star dressmaker, I’m definitely not! I’m incredibly slow and inaccurate with sewing, and am slowly getting better at the basics.
  • I’ve completely converted to full fat dairy and I’m never going back.
  • I’m an extremely passive aggressive jogger. I mentally abuse people I jog past, especially if they block my way or have a good body. I don’t mean it. Really.

Got any secrets or something to come clean about on your blog?

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  1. Love this post! I know what you mean about the perception that many lifestyle/fashion/food blogs put out of their writers living seemingly perfect lives. Of course bloggers post about the aesthetically pleasing and interesting aspects of their lives instead of the mundane! But behind all that we’re all just humans, imperfect in our own random ways. Haha I laughed at your last point on passive aggressive jogging, I often feel that way towards other people at the bus-stop for absolutely no good reason except me being tired and a grumpy grouch. The most we can do is be a good person on the outside sometimes :)

  2. Hi Chisa, I think it was from your last post that I went off to explore that Things I’m Afraid To Tell You series. What a great thing that so many have jumped on board. I too think that I share that life isn’t all smooth sailing, but I still hold things back, sometimes for privacy, sometimes because I’m still processing it. I’ve been thinking since yesterday about doing a post. I am pleased to learn more about you through this. I think you are gorgeous. I don’t think many women can carry off a shaved head and still look so beautiful. x

  3. Thanks guys, I wasn’t sure how this was going to be received! Definitely encourage you to do your own posts on the subject – it’s always interesting to find out some little known facts about other bloggers, and know we’re all only human :)

  4. I love this post. Especially the jogging as I don’t feel as bad when I’m trying to move through the city knowing there’s others like me :) Much respect for sharing all this.

  5. Lol, I laughed at your self-defense mechanism about assuming beautiful people are mean or dumb, because I do that too! The best thing is discovering you are wrong, though – one of my best friends is an ex-model, and when I first met her I assumed she must be a bitch because of how she looks. Turns out she is one of the sweetest, considerate and most humble people I know – AND she is hyper-sensitive about how people react to her modeling past (she hates to talk about it). So I guess it happens a lot to some people!

    I went back and read the related posts on the “Things I’m Afraid To Tell You” theme – I think it is a great initiative! It is easy to get overwhelmed by the seeming perfection of other blogger’s lives, and a nice dose of reality and authenticity is definitely welcome! Really enjoyed this post :)

  6. This is fantastic! I’m finding it very interesting.
    There are a few bloggers who I would love to suggest this to, but I have a feeling they may not take it up ;)

    cj.
    theindustrybaby.blogspot.com

  7. Al – Haha I’m completely mellow driving, but get footpath rage! Keep it all inside though =P Glad to know it’s not just me.

    Kylie – I actually do it to super talented people too, I assume that they’re too awesome to want to speak to me… and I’m always wrong there too! There really are just people who are beautiful, talented, intelligent and still really lovely personality-wise too. I’m now quite conscious of making sure I give people a proper chance and not vocalise this silly self-defense mechanism as I’m almost always wrong.

    CJ – Well people can always choose what ‘secrets’ they want to share – in the end a blog can never give a fully rounded view of someone, just the view that they construct for you. It is nice that there are some big name bloggers out there attempting a bit of transparency though :)

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